Saturday, 9 January 2010

The Feelings of Helpless Patriotism


http://uk.youtube.com/watch?v=PPL_DDlcOpQ


It’s not about Shahrukh saying this, it’s about image he presents of an ideal Indian and its about Amir saying in his blog, ‘What I would really like to see emerge from all this is the youth of this country starting a political party. A group that stands for strong, clean, honest and fresh leadership. A group that we can all support'.

Yeah, they all said it, but I believe deep down we can feel it too, each of us, who were glued on to the TV sets those three days felt it, the frustration, the disgust, that feeling of helplessness, that feeling of gratitude for those who fought bravely. It also built a critic in us, a critic of the entire system, a critic of the operations being carried on. Moreover and most importantly, it built in us a patriot, it built in us an Indian and more than that it built in us a Human.

No, I cannot do what Amir said confess, i can’t initiate it, and certainly not alone. However, if initiated, I believe I won’t step back, neither of us would. Unless i m empowered to apply my own beliefs, all i would be left doing is quoting words of faith, screaming out slogans of patriotism and end it there. And honestly, that is what has always happened. Movies like Rang de Basanti and Yuva, wakes up the Indian in us and then we are exposed to live telecasts portraying the extent of helplessness a citizen of India is in, that puts it back to sleep. The real world ain’t like a movie, I agree, but how different is it, when it affects us to such high magnitudes. When it inspires us and propagates the feeling of unity among each of us. A population so large, it’s impossible to unify thoughts, statistically applied, it evens out extremes. Well, apparently we have been hit hard by the extremes. Extremes not only comprise of our own spreading terror, but also those who prioritize self bliss over nationwide success. The powerful, they are, they limit opportunities and smirk at those who tried. And eventually, so do we, saying what they did no one could do, and cite examples.

Amir continued in his blog saying ‘In my opinion, you really want to change things? Change yourself. Each one of us needs to take a very honest look inwards and rectify and work on what we think is wrong with us. If each one of us does that individually then there will be a sea change in our society at large. I have to promise myself that I will not be corrupt, will play my role in society with honesty and sincerity. Doctors, lawyers, judges, people in the IAS, police force, media persons, businessmen, job workers, labour force, everyone. We have to stop thinking of our own individual gain and loss and do what is honest, true and right, and think collective. It calls for personal sacrifice in this time of chaos but from chaos will emerge clarity. Even if we don’t manage to achieve this for ourselves we will achieve it for our children.’

Felt good to read it, but the next second I feel so artificial thinking how long would this stay in all of us. How long would this statement of his matter to me. Would i just have heated arguments, discussions and end it there. Or would a time come when actually a change would come.

I, as an individual, believe, Allah had given me a world in which i was supposed to gather deeds, and secure my space in heaven. Everyone who follows my religion is my brother and those who don’t are my equal. To those elderly in and around my family who succumb to the negatives of the system, I m a better human. But how long would circumstances let me stick to his belief.

Clearly, there is something expected from each of us, what? We all know deep inside. We fail to realise it. The other day i remember telling my friend from Sri Lanka, ‘your country needs a Gandhi’, ironically it crosses my mind now that how less do we need another Gandhi. He was needed when our nation was hit by the then terrorists for us. He freed us and left, our nation was going through the same then. Most of us being born and brought up later wouldn’t know the intensity of the situation. I wonder if it was any different. Even then he called upon the youth of the nation, shunned their aggressiveness, converted them to the religion of faith and gave us victory. The youth, this time, is being called on again. This time what is different, we know. We support, we pray, but then we have our lives to take care of. So did Gandhi. We are far from our country. So was Gandhi. We know the truth. So did Gandhi. We don’t have an identity strong enough to bring about change. Neither did Gandhi. We are not empowered. Gandhi was. We aren’t empowered because we chose to give power to those whose effective governing capabilities have been exposed pretty well.

I don’t sit here and bluff without realising I am equally guilty, equally frustrated and equally helpless.

I remember sitting down with friends in Saudi and talking about our country saying things like let them give the country to us for one day and we will show them how to run it. But when each of us went back home, we were disappointed, disgusted, we were lost. Let alone the nation, we first had to make a place in the society so different from what we thought to be a perfect, sensible society. We had to suddenly live up to the expectations of the materialistic world so much that all our expectations drowned in the whirlpool of the surroundings. With time, we were embedded into the same situation- ‘Where are we?’. We were so lost. Some still are, cross identities. Drastic changes. Confusions. Eventually- disgust. I myself didn’t feel any different from the rest.

Why do i feel more responsible when i go out of India, because i feel i wasn’t there when things happened, or because my presence would have made any difference? Its human nature I presume. Nothing more or less. But whatever it is, it does contribute as we all identify ourselves as Indians, we unite ourselves, trust each other and somewhere, love each other. And as Amir said ‘Allowing love, peace and trust to grow within us is not a sign of weakness but a sign of immense strength.’ I hope and pray this strength shall prevail and overpower each of us in such a way that we all one day, with a Gandhi inside each of us, drive out the elements of fear, communalism, hatred and eventually terror from every corner of our country, and strongly identify ourselves as Hindustani. A ‘Sthan’ of ‘hind’. A ‘Sthan’ so different from every other country in this world. A unique ‘Sthan’ where peace and harmony prevails. This of course is a perspective which i doubt would ever be true. It won’t. Period.

My views may be contradicting a readers perspectives but i am not here to propagate a controversy. Mine are a random flow of thoughts i wanted to share. There are many other well and better acknowledged with the entire situation, and with different perspectives and beliefs, i support and respect each of them. If I m to be contradicting, contradict me with a sense of making me understand and not with spite. As a naive individual, I call for statements that make me understand what should be done and why in compliance to what i believe to be right and true. That is how a youth more honest, more practical and more sensible would emerge out of me, instead of making me go against my own nation.

Yes, people may have different views on what SRK says about religion, but one of the things that got me thinking was 'I explain to my children the holy Quran in English, which makes it easier for them to understand'. True, the Quran is meant to be read in the language it was sent, but honestly i respect him for what he does. To know what the Holy book says is more essential than knowing how to read it. People before had the stamina to do both. But as for now, even this little effort could bring about changes unforeseen.

Islam propagates harmony and not violence. A lady used to throw garbage on Our beloved prophet (PBUH) everyday when he crossed her path. The day she didn’t do that, he went to her house to ask if she was well and found out she was sick. He sat next to her and prayed for her. This is what Islam is all about. Patience, harmony, peace. As has been said in the interview, I follow the Islam of Allah. And I choose to understand it myself. Sanely.


‘ Jhuth ka badhta jaaye raaj o baapu
aapne hi ho gaye dhokebaaz
aaj hamein apnon se bachale
aaja re baapu mere
paai paai mein insaan bika re
jaan yeh ho gayi sasti re
soya zameer baapu phir se jaga de
aaja re baapu mere’

10 comments:

Kishore said...

i have been waitin for almost an hour for her to put up this note n comment on this... a very nice one and i am happy n proud of havin read it b4 it was posted here. somethin which every helpless patriot feels.. but we shud and wil not b helpless al t time. Time wil come soon wen this wil change and change wil b positive and drastic... n 3 cheers to Lailu who put up such a wonderful post.... keep up the good work.... Jai Hind...

Punit said...

nice one .. but we wont be helpless... we will be the change... the change in people and change in countries..... thanks for such a nice post.

Ashu said...

Thanks firstly for making me a part of this "Note"... With whole respect to ur views and thoughts...i would like to make small thought on this :

" I guess the biggest religion is HUMANITY and i stand for that, what happened in India is sad but this is not the end or ...Patriotism to India iis not which is have to be only made a note on...its should be the Patriotism of standing towards Humanism.
I want to Q what happened in Ahmadabad, Bangalore, Delhi....No one raised the feeling of Patriotism ; why was it not felt that time did people came out like this on road...???
I respect and proud of people, personalities coming on the road making a statement, but is that going to make changes to come by.......Well Nope.
Youth coming into politics ...nice but difficult to make an difference, because the problem is deep beneath - "Corruption"...why people are more individualized in there thinking is because that is the limit to wish they are pushed off....
Films are made out of realities (patriotism, Jawans)...do make effects for sometime...are remembered,praised,motivates...but how many movies are made on Corruption or to showcase the truthful and people's INDIA...NILL!!!
Seeing the horrific 3 days on MUMBAI...reactions whr obvious to come...and respecting the emotions, support build-up but the winner r the Politicians...
Today's its less than talking on Terrorist Attacks....but making the communities highlighted (being MUSLIMS or the HINDUS or the CHRISTIANS.

Peaceful and Brotherhood India...World which we need and the feeling are to move towards the Patriotism of BROTHERHOOD and ONENESS...

WAQT NE HAMEIN JODA HAI
WAQT NE HAMEIN THODA HAI
WAQT NE HAMEIN INSANIYAT SE DOOR KIYA HAI
WAQT NE HAMEIN AAJ PHIR AKELA LA CHODA HAI...

WE SHOULD ALL SEE IN THE WAY OF HUMANITY....JAI HIND.

Ruwi said...

Very wel said n written..its time v as an individual shud take a stand,n not putting da blame on system..its very easy2sit bac n watch da news n criticise da politicians,government etc..but v fail2realise wat r v doin for da country..

Samirah said...

A splendid article laila...thanks fr sharing & tagging it too...
n yes...how i remember those days in school whn we usd 2 go lyk bas ek din..n we'll show em wht can b done... yes it IS the youth who has the grit & determination...it IS the youth who can do what they want want & stand up fr what they beleive in...but then what next..?? is it that the impetus needed is not enough or there is a lack of motivation..?? we all knw deep inside wht the tru picture is...the desire is there ... so is the thirst to DO smthing...hence the helpless patriotic feeling... esp being away frm our dear nation...it really brings into focus and thrws light on the these various predicaments facing .. no noo..befalling us on a daily basis... here's hoping tht when the time DO comes fr us to take up an issue... stand our ground we do whtever is deemed necessary..n isntead of focussingon the differences we stand shoulder to shoulder and be humans for once face the world as a united force of grit, determination, brotherhood & understanding fr each other...

annum said...

Hey Laila!! Thanks for sharing this amazingly moving blog dear!! The feelings of helpless patriotism gives me a picture of the common citizen as a puppet whose basic rights of living can be violated to such a horrendous extent. But the question is if we are indirectly contributing into building this terror community by being too complacent with the way things are going around us?? do we really need the likes of mumbai tragedy to wake us up?? must say it should be a wake up call... atleast now...

Harsha said...

nice one Laila! So makes sense! but what I think is most important to energize this potential zest is to educate every single citizen and not only netizens of our country.
just my small opinion.. coz people ALWAYS tend to forget past and also the learning aspect of it!

Firas said...

I think that as individuals, we have to realize that we--as in, our mentalities and attitudes--come out of long, very old traditions and it's okay if we don't win every fight within our lifetimes.

Gandhi:
"Whatever you do will be insignificant, but it is very important that you do it."

He helped get rid of the British but his techniques weren't universally supported among more violence-prone freedom fighters and the Brits had other pressures making their empire cave in anyway.

The point is that the arc of history sweeps with such force that it's futile to think we're going to change deep issues just by virtue of being alive at a particular moment. Instead of being like a wave breaking against a cliff in the effort to bring it down we have to be more like a tide moving widely against a coast and slowly shaping it by moving grains of sand, bit by bit.

Aamir is correct individual courage is key. Think of how much social pressure we expose ourselves to as Indians when not conforming to expectations.

So we have to balance picking our battles and sticking to the courage of our convictions. So many of us tip the scale to the one side completely and get lost in personal selfishness, such as when doing things like electing public servants just because we like their ethnic backgrounds.

An aspect here is that not everything we think is idealistically true is actually true. Some things are just human nature, some other things we can't even convince our well-meaning peers about. So just because we fervently believe in something doesn't mean we have to fight to impose it on everyone. Join and build movements--that has to be the key.

Barack Obama: "One voice can change a room, and if one voice can change a room, then it can change a city, and if it can change a city, it can change a state, and if it change a state, it can change a nation, and if it can change a nation, it can change the world."

Nausheen said...

dont have words to describe how m feeling right now...

The Scorpion Lass said...

thank u so much everyone for ur valuable comments and appreciation :) i m really glad i cud effectively communicate what i feel to you, via this note :) whatever comments i have got, i see a bit of a unanimous perspective which makes me feel real good :)
"Whatever you do will be insignificant, but it is very important that you do it."
in this quote 'you' refers to each of us :) n expressing your views in such a way, i believe, is a start :)